I hated those kinds of comments. In my case a lot of times those types of comments were used to belittle or brush aside my concerns about DS's development. The comments from strangers were bad enough; the ones from relatives were especially rude and hurtful.
After DS was diagnosed with autism, there was a part of me that wanted to seek out everyone who had ever dismissed my concerns and tell them, "No, it wasn't that I was an over-reactive first time mom or that I didn't know what I was doing. There really is something unusual about his development and a whole team at Children's Hospital agrees with me!"
Gena
DS, age 11 and always amazing
“Autistics are the ultimate square pegs, and the problem with pounding a square peg into a round hole is not that the hammering is hard work. It's that you're destroying the peg." - Paul Collins, Not Even Wrong