Stupid Baby Shower

[shawnandangel]

History: a friend of mine's fiancé and I are both pregnant and due within 2-3 weeks of each other. This is the second child for both of us. A while back she suggested we have a joint baby shower together and host it for each other. I was uncomfortable with this idea because it would feel like I was asking people for gifts under the ruse that I was hosting for someone else so I said "I think one of my other friends is going to host a baby shower for me, but I would love to host one for you" - this was a lie - nobody that I know of is hosting us a baby shower. This is her second DS and my first DS.

So anyways I ask her if a certain date would work,masked her the theme to her nursery etc and started planning for her.

Today I wake up to a FB post of her asking others if a different date would be better! She did not consult me at all before asking if she could change the day!

I am just flabbergasted. I'm already sad that nobody has wanted to throw me a shower (except this girl and there were strings attached- I throw one for her and I think it's just tacky). There has been 5 years since DD and the sex of the child is different. We need boy clothes, new carseat etc. my family threw SIL a sprinkle for her second child (she had 2 DD's) and they were only 14 months apart!

So I'm already a little sad that nobody wants to celebrate the birth of our boy but now I have to deal with baby shower diva? Oh please.

[AnnieW625]

That sucks. I would respond back on FB and say that the only date that works is the following date, no other dates and if the given date doesn't work then I am not able to host a shower then.

No one offered to throw a second shower for my DD2 and prior to that I had been to at least 6 showers for mom friends who were having their second or third children all less than 3 yrs. apart before I had DD2. Two of the showers were for boy/girl twins, three others were for second same sex babies, and one was for a different sex baby. I was invited to another for a mom who was having her second and didn't know the sex and her boys were 3/1/2 yrs. apart, but I couldn't go to that one as I was out of town, but I still made a gift. In general it still it made me feel like well "I guess those friends aren't as close as I thought they would be" so it made me feel sad that I felt like maybe I didn't really matter. It is definitely nice to feel wanted.

Congrats on your little guy.

[BabyBearsMom]

I'm so sorry that no one has offered to throw you a shower. That really sucks. Every baby deserves a celebration. And you are a very kind friend to host a shower.

[hellokitty]

I totally agree with everything, Annie said. Down to the, maybe they're not as close of friends as I thought," feelings. {hugs} I hope your friend isn't going to be a total brat about this and I hope you do get a baby shower.

[marymoo86]

That sucks. I would respond back on FB and say that the only date that works is the following date, no other dates and if the given date doesn't work then I am not able to host a shower then.

No one offered to throw a second shower for my DD2 and prior to that I had been to at least 6 showers for mom friends who were having their second or third children all less than 3 yrs. apart before I had DD2. Two of the showers were for boy/girl twins, three others were for second same sex babies, and one was for a different sex baby. I was invited to another for a mom who was having her second and didn't know the sex and her boys were 3/1/2 yrs. apart, but I couldn't go to that one as I was out of town, but I still made a gift. In general it still it made me feel like well "I guess those friends aren't as close as I thought they would be" so it made me feel sad that I felt like maybe I didn't really matter. It is definitely nice to feel wanted.

Congrats on your little guy.

Feeling a little unloved myself Participated and threw a couple of sprinkles for friends with 2nd and 3rd babies same gender etc but nothing on the horizon for me. Just a lunch out to acknowledge is all I really wanted.

[petesgirl]

I'm with Annie, mention to her that you have a tight schedule and was already planning on the original date.