sigh.... Thanks so much, y'all, for the responses. DS is going through some kind of phase (at least I sure HOPE it's a phase!) in which he is being really contrary and he's making me crazy! But our ST suggested maybe he's doing something developmentally appropriate - and testing his limits. I've just been so used to him being sweet, compliant and eager-to-please. So I appreciate all the support. I'm stepping away from the ledge for the time-being. I have a meeting with DS's classroom and EC teachers on Monday. I'll get their perspective. In the meantime, there's a school in a neighboring county I've heard about and may be an option if things dont work well this year.