Originally Posted by
Cuckoomamma
We couldn't afford to adopt a child and I've just tried to move on.
As an adoptive parent, I just wanted to tell you that if money is the obstacle to adoption there are many adoption options out there for older children (age to 2 to 3 and up) that involve very low costs or even state subsidies.
DH and I both know that we are not up to another infant after dealing with The Biscuit's infancy as 40-somethings. However, neither one of us have ruled out bringing another child into our home once The Biscuit is to the point where a younger sibling would be feasible through the state (so probably once he is at least six or seven).
That said, only you know if what you want is to parent more as opposed to being pregnant, giving birth and having an infant in the house. My view is that infancy is a very short stage (and for me pregnancy was a no-go), but parenting is for the rest of your life. If parenting is your goal, you can make it happen again.
Otherwise, hugs. I get the mourning, but have to say that The Biscuit's adoption and knowing that we have the option to parent more down the road helped me get through it.
DS - "The Biscuit" 8/11
Forever ours 4/12!