Like many people, DH and I both work full time, our weekends are jam packed with activities, errands, etc and while DS takes an afternoon nap, DD at 5 does not. This basically leaves us a small window of opportunity after both kids go to bed. DH can DTD any time, any place but 9:00 at night after a busy day is not my ideal time for sex. I would rather go to bed with a book!
Sex is more important to DH but since I know this, I try to make sure we DTD once a week, almost always on a Friday or Saturday night. He wants me to basically jump his bones but that's not going to happen - I tend to be in the mood in the morning or afternoon, not at the end of the day, but I know that it's easiest to do it at night after the kids go to bed. It's creating some tension because he feels like I'm doing it out of duty where I would say I'm doing it because I know how important it is to him. Really, it's just not a good time for me to be intimate.
So, has anyone come up with any creative solutions to carve out other times for sex? I've asked him to try and meet at home early on a Friday but I think that happened once. Early mornings before the kids get up isn't an option.