So, dd's IEP was postponed due to dd's classroom teacher having a family emergency. I do not blame the teacher at all, of course...but this meeting was supposed to happen in November. It was postponed once before due to weather. Then they did not want to schedule it until mid-March--dd is going to middle school and the school choice deadline is the end of Feb, so I pushed to have it happen earlier. It is now happening Thursday.
Dd's teacher called me last night about another matter (she wanted to let me know she will not be there for dd's birthday and wanted to know if dd still wanted to have that little celebration that day or change it) last night. Dd and I both have a great relationship with the teacher. I asked her how she thought this meeting would go and what the spec ed teacher thinks of dd. Teacher said she thinks spec ed teacher thinks dd is more avoidant than having problems with her ability. Sigh, to say the least. I have dealt with this in "professionals" over and over for dd. I know it is not the case. The problems she is having are the same ones that are problems for her disability. I know what avoidant looks like and its not dd. Ds is more avoidant--very hard to get him to do work, but once he does it, he gets it done because he can!!! Dd can spend a long time on things, but she doesn't get parts of it and can't do it. This is only a little of what goes on.
As much as it sucks, I am glad to have this info. I had requested to start the meeting with me reviewing relevant info about dd's diagnosis and how it effects her back in Nov--I was almost going to waive that as this meeting is going to have to be short, I want an update, they have invited a middle school spec ed administrator, etc--but now I will not waive that, and as I had always planned will talk specifically about how it is really common for people to not recognize that the child is struggling or how the disability effects them.
Also, I am scared of having the middle school spec ed administrator there--it is definitely good, so I can hopefully get any info I need, but I have so little patience for people's ignorance about dd that I am afraid I will be reactive and come off looking bad to someone who doesnt know the whole story. I am normally a calm person, but this is just so difficult.
I guess this is mostly a vent, as I don't know that there is any thing anyone can offer me---but I'd sure appreciate any PTs, BBB mojo, whatever you've got that this meeting goes well for dd. I do have a friend attending, so that is good. Thanks!