Not with money but with time. I know there are a bunch of people on here who have parents that basically disappoint them with respect to how uninvolved they are or how little they offer assistance. It is hard to admit because I love and respect my parents so much, but i think I am accepting the fact that this is what it is - a disappointment and hurtful. I know they love my kids so much and I know they love me so much but they are just unwilling or unable to offer help like - hey you guys are so busy and have been battling illness for weeks, why don't I come up and watch the kids for the afternoon while you rest? No, never. In fact the only time they seem willing to help out is when we have a legitimate thing to do, but only if it is in the afternoon/not too late and only if they don't have x,y or a planned (like my mom can't babysit a sick kid when the cleaning lady is at her house). They will give us tickets to a sporting event and babysit then, but if I decline because dh isn't feeling great/is worn down, they won't sAy hey I will still come up. My mom also sees my friends on Facebook going on childless vacations, out to dinner with friends, etc and will ask who has the kids? And when I say their parents babysat for the 1-2 days she responds with oh I could never do that. Why? You couldn't babysit for 24 hours? I know people who have grandparents take the kids on vacation themselves! I also know we have food allergies and they don't want to take on the responsibility of cooking for multiple severe allergies for several meals. But good lord! Don't you care that I would love a break!?! Can you be inconvenienced by my kids health needs for 1 day??? Ugh.
My parents are kind and generous and supportive and I feel so badly that I feel this way, and I feel so badly that they don't really get as much interaction with my kids as I imagined. And this is while They re both able bodied and semi-healthy. They aren't very healthy people in general but we don't have walkers or major things like that yet. My dad beat cancer too, so you would think that would give him some perspective.
Idk just feeling irritated and down.