Update: (thanks for the sweet compliments, I love you guys)
So I was encouraged to work with my curl a little more and look for some new products to try. It had been a long time since I have tried anything other than gel. At Walgreens I picked up Not Your Mothers Beach Babe Cream and Not Your Mothers Beach Babe Sea Salt Spray. Last night I used those after washing and then let it air dry and went to bed still a bit damp. I am pretty happy with the results considering I slept on it.
I also looked up the hairstylist trained for curls and saw a salon that has been recommended a couple times by people just running into me with DDs. They are pricey for me, so I think I will just put it off a bit and try to get my next cut there. I still am exploring tools after my big fail using this waver. After watching some videos and reading reviews, I want to try this wrap to wave styler.
Definitely skipping the perm. Thanks for talking me down!
eta: sorry if pic is upside down....not sure how to fix that!