Babybunny, what a lot to deal with! I know it is overwhelming right now and it does not sound like school has behaved impressively in the past. BTW, do they have an anti-bullying policy? What you describe is just heartbreaking.

I would also feel heart sick about the idea of taking away camp that a child is days from and has been anticipating for a long time. I think it comes down to how much money you can comfortably throw at this problem. In your shoes, to replace the summer school, I would want to hire a Wilson or Orton-Gillingham trained tutor three times per week with me providing an additional session 1-2X per week.

If the reading specialist is giving up then it sounds to me like her method is not working. Is the trained in Wilson? I think Wilson/Orton Gillingham are very effective for many dyslexic children - - I certainly know of kids who "failed" at other reading interventions who succeeded with Wilson.

On the IEP, in the special needs forum, we have been discussing the pros/cons of bringing an advocate to your meeting. I would look up any non-profit resources or parent groups that can advise you. I am not nearly as expert as some of the posters in Special Needs but I didn't sign our IEP until 1) all evaluations that I had requested had been completed - - I needed to advocate for an OT eval; and 2) the goals listed were quantifiable and testable.

HTH.