The Wrightslaw seminars are great. I attended one last year. Even though I research and read a lot, I learned so much about what I needed to do for DS2 in that one day.
Our school district holds meetings for parents of special ed kids every 2-3 months, and I try to attend when I can. The last one was about transition services. I went even though DS2 is only 8, and it was eye opening. A couple of the other parents were dealing with kids aged 16-17 and one family had a child in mid 20s. My two big take aways were the need to plan financially so that the child doesn't have assets in his/her name at age 18 and the fact that you'll need to be your child's advocate. There are a lot of services available through the county, including assistance with medical insurance/health issues. But, they seem somewhat uncoordinated and unconnected.
DS2 is doing much, much better this year after 6 months in a great program at school. I'm hoping we won't need to access adult services, but I'm glad I'm aware of them in case we do. We would definitely need to start preparing for a transition years in advance if it was necessary.
I hear you on the going p/t thing. Even though I have very flexible hours and work from home, maintaining a f/t job, running a household, + managing 1 (maybe 2) special needs kids (plus a third child) is mentally and physically exhausting. I'm currently taking some time off and trying to figure out whether I can cut back on my hours. I think it may be necessary, at least for the next year or two.
Tara
living a crazy life with 3 boys
I am thinking now
of grief, and of getting past it;
I feel my boots
trying to leave the ground,
I feel my heart
pumping hard. I want
to think again of dangerous and noble things.
I want to be light and frolicsome.
I want to be improbable beautiful and afraid of nothing,
as though I had wings.
~Mary Oliver