Hello All,
I am 30 weeks pregnant with my second child. I loved my first OB, but we have moved since then and I had to find a new one. I took advice from my SIL (probably a mistake since she doesn't have kids yet) about who to go to, and based on that I picked a provider. And basically, I haven't really liked her or anyone in the office since. Every time I have an appointment, it's with a different provider (NP, PA, MD, midwife), so none of them really know me even though I have had like a million appointments now. When I call to ask for advice or with questions and leave a message, they only call me back about half the time. When I ask questions and they don't know the answers, they tend leave it at that (no real follow-up to find the answers - I end up looking stuff up on line). And different providers I have seen have given me contradictory advice. Also, based on what I have read, they are not recommending or even telling their patients about the latest guidelines (for example, that all pregnant women get a TDaP vaccination between 27-37 weeks because of the recent pertussis/whooping cough outbreaks). And they have a tendency to cite guidelines that don't exist (for example, saying that all pregnant women need to take 4000 IU of Vitamin D per day because it is an ACOG guideline, when I can find nothing in the literature to support that claim).
I have just been kind of letting it go because it always seemed like I was too far along to do anything about it, and I figured I was just being overly sensitive, and I felt weird switching to a new provider when I was so far along. Yesterday, however, I found that the my OB was taking care of an acquaintance of mine when she had a stroke after her pregnancy, and that basically the stroke was literally entirely the fault of the OB because she prescribed her the wrong medication at the wrong dose after she delivered her baby (several doctor friends have encouraged her to sue or at least seek damages).
So now I feel like I really need to change, but now I am REALLY ridiculously far along (I mean 30 weeks!!??!!). I just feel like a crazy person for letting this go on so long and really it's kind of embarrassing to call a new OB and be like, "um, hi, so my OB is awful, and I've known for months and just kind of let it go, but now I want you to be my OB?" I feel like they are going to say, "uh oh - red flag, problem patient here we come!" But I don't know what else to do.
What would you do?