Originally Posted by
lalasmama
My mom passed 7 years ago, and was a pretty well-known figure around our small town--was a teacher for years, then did an in-home daycare for 25 years, then ran the very successful wedding shop for nearly 10 years in her town of 25,000... And when I am in her hometown, I still run into people who had no idea. It happens... and it's an easy thing to miss if you are not in the same social circles. I'd send a card, or drop off a card with a baked good, explain you hadn't heard, and are sorry you weren't aware of it when it happened. And I'd make sure to check in with her to make sure she knows that you weren't trying to avoid her, or ignore her, or that there was a falling out she wasn't aware of.