Originally Posted by
oneplustwo
Wow, just wow. OK, so you don't ever ask for her to do you a favor, but she should be offering to help you if you ever need it. That's how it works for normal people! When I ask a favor of a friend, or they ask one of me, we always follow up either at the same time as the request or afterwards with a "let me know if I can ever return the favor/help you out/I owe you one." But it sounds like she never even gives a vague offer. And the birthday overnight request? Way, way, way out of bounds.
This is not a friend you need. At least I wouldn't. And here is what you say:
"Sorry we can't help, that doesn't work for us."
"Sorry we can't help, that doesn't work for us."
For example:
Overstepping boundaries in a big way mom (OBIABWM): Hi, can you pick up my daughter from school and take her home with you, give her a snack, help her with her homework and then take her to practice, then bring her home?
You: Sorry we can't help, that doesn't work for us.
OBIABWM: But my cutie pie honey will miss practice and won't get her homework done unless you do this.
You: Sorry we can't help, that doesn't work for us.
OBIABWM: Surely your daughter would like the company, plus she can help my daughter do her homework, maybe even do the work for my sweetie pie!
You: Sorry we can't help, that doesn't work for us.
OBIAWM: But you're already picking up your daughter at school, taking her to your home, feeding her a snack, overseeing her homework, taking her to practice . . . I'm really only asking you to drive my daughter home from practice, don't you see?
You: Sorry we can't help, that doesn't work for us.