Eh, I couldn't wait to leave the house so I certainly never called unless there was a reason, so I envy anyone with a close relationship! Teen Dd and I are close but we tend to text back and forth about practical things. The chatting happens in the car or when we go out for lunch alone. On one hand we are told to keep an eye on our kids and their friends and be available, but not too much. It's hard to strike the balance, but I think we have .
It's not our style, but I don't think it's a terrible thing to be in touch. It's better than having no idea what's going on. There is a lot of pressure on our kids these days so I will worry about her mental health. I've introduced guided meditations and plan to teach both breathing techniques for stress relief.
What I cannot understand is monitoring their work. I have NO idea what dd does unless she needs to buy something for a project or complains about an assignment. I understand some kids need help or a push, but I have a friend who edited her son's papers until he graduated from COLLEGE.
Yes, college.
I learned to be hands off early. Let them make mistakes when they are In Elementary school (though our elem was a pressure cooker and mistakes were not forgiven- but still). Let them forget their books/homework and suffer the consequences. I let them pack their backpacks from kg or 1st, but my kids are organized Irt school. Definitely by 3-4th grade..
Guess what? It doesn't matter at that age. You don't want them to learn this lesson in high school, and they need to be completely independent by college! Some kids will keep messing up and need help with organizational skills, so focus on that.