I know this makes me a bad person.

[petesgirl]

BIL is on his 3rd marriage. He is super moody and weird and creepy. Naturally, so are the girls he ends up with. He has been living back east ever since before DH and I were married but recently lost his job and got divorced and moved back in with my in-laws because he had no money and nowhere else to go. I'll say it again--he is creepy. And I hate having him only 20 mins away. Well, he has been here for less than a year but is already re-married. To a girl who was 7 months pregnant with some other man's baby when they met. I have never met her. They have been married for 3 weeks and she had the baby 2 days ago. And now my inbox is getting slammed with email after email from him of the baby THAT ISN'T EVEN HIS!! I mean, all babies and sweet, and yay! Congrats, momma. But, seriously, I actually really don't care about seeing her baby because I don't even know her! I don't need to/want to know any birthing stories and I just think the 'intimate' professional family pictures they took of all 3 of them are stupid because it is not his child. Erg. I shouldn't be so bugged by this but I am. It is the 3rd marriage of his and the first 2 ended in total failure, after having sucked a ton money out of my in laws. Forgive me for not jumping for joy now. I can already hear MIL complaining over how much money he will be asking for 'because he has to take care of the baby'. I swear he just uses his marriages/kids to guilt his parents into giving him money.

Oh, and I have a question-- the baby has his last name. Since they were legally married when she was born, then does that make the baby legally his even though it isn't biologically his?

[ahisma]

In some states, yes.

[BunnyBee]

In some states, yes.

Yes, this. Child support requirements and all. It's usually a legal presumption which can be overturned, but...

That sounds like a train wreck!

[JBaxter]

Every state is different The birth certificate is a legal document he may or may not be listed as the father. You can give a baby any last name you want.

[trcy]

That sounds like a train wreck!

ITA!
OP, I don't think your feeling on this make you a bad person.

[elbenn]

Is your post correct that your BIL only knew the woman he married about one month? That's very quick!

[Ceepa]

You're not a bad person, I'm a bad person because I want to hear updates.

[gatorsmom]

You're not a bad person, I'm a bad person because I want to hear updates.

Then I'm bad too. Does the mom know who the biological dad is?

[petesgirl]

Then I'm bad too. Does the mom know who the biological dad is?

I have no idea....

[lalasmama]

Oh, and I have a question-- the baby has his last name. Since they were legally married when she was born, then does that make the baby legally his even though it isn't biologically his?

As others have said, it varies from state to state. My mother's last husband married a chick who was pregnant with someone else's kid, and they gave that child the husband's last name, but biological father was listed on the birth certificate and had to pay child support. However, I'd guess *most* people aren't going to do that, which means if (when) this marriage potentially goes south, your brother may likely be on the hook for child support for the next 18 years. I recall my brother (not married to the mother) signing a "affidavit of paternity" for his daughter without ever having a blood test... and both he and the baby mama were swingers. There's *no* doubt the child was his--holy cow, sometimes I think she was cloned from my brother as she gets older! But, at the time, she looked like a normal, cookie-cutter, old man baby. There was no distinguishing features that "proved" parentage. I believe that many states have an "assumed parentage" statute, where it basically says, "if you are married, you are the father unless you prove otherwise in x amount of time."