So my family Christmas went great for the first time in like forever. Yay! Now I get SIL here for a week.
1. She NEVER calls or emails to ask what day or time she should fly in. She just makes reservations and assumes we will be there to get her. Last year, it was in the middle of DD's Choir Concert. This year it was in the middle of my family's Xmas.
2. She is disappointed she gets the blow up mattress in the office--it's a bed on a frame, raised up off the floor. If she gets DH's room (he works lots of nights and needs to sleep during the day so he sleeps in the basement) then that means DH has to sleep in DD's room, and DD sleeps with me. So yes, that displaces the ENTIRE family. And she knows this.
3. Unfortunately, MIL is getting more demented and she had to move to our city. She is in a Senior citizens apartment place with 3 meals a day--very nice place. She moved in September. She still has gobs and gobs of boxes that are unpacked. She won't do it. She won't let DH do it--if he tries to throw out any junk, she asks him to leave. He went in there while she was at SIL's for Thanksgiving and got rid of tons of stuff--she will never know. It's hard for DH and SIL to see their mother become a different person. But then SIL thinks that DH should have the apartment unpacked by now--because MIL let HER unpack a box and WHY have the wardrobe boxes not been unpacked--and don't recycle those, they are valuable. This does.not.help. You are on the same team here.
4. Today, SIL took DD over to MIL's apartment. They came home and we said "isn't MIL coming over for dinner". SIL says that MIL didn't want to come because she wasn't invited. WHUCK!!! We told SIL--dinner will be at 6, it's all of us together. So DH has to call MIL and invite her over. Give me a break!!!! It's the same holiday as last year--it's just that MIL is staying in a different place.
5. SIL is a bit miffed/confused that I did not buy tickets for various plays and performances for her and MIL to go to while I am working!!! DH is off on Monday and Wednesday--I am not. Why would I plan entertainment for everybody else? MIL and SIL have always just gone to lunch and to the movies when they come here. They don't baby sit for us--they just entertain themselves. When I have gotten tickets, it has been for shows that I am attending with the children and I include MIL and SIL. I'm not setting up entertainment for everybody else while I am at work. (I have to work--our big federal accreditation audit is coming up in January and this is my show. High risk, high visibility and still plenty to do--its the same every year)
Sigh--could always be worse. ...Feel free to add your frustrations.....