Originally Posted by
lalasmama
Many many years ago, I was a nurses' aid at a memory care unit. Some things to look for/consider:
Ask about staff to patient ratios. Find out what your state requires, and make sure that the facilities are truly adhering to that (you'll be able to tell by the look on the CNA's faces!).
Expect locking doors. If they aren't locked, that's a bad sign--either they aren't used to true memory care issues/needs, or they cater to the patients that don't really need "memory care" (ie, "Mom's a bit forgetful, and left the stove on one too many times," versus "Dad's walked out of the house 5 times this week, the police were involved in 3 searches for him, and the next door neighbor was a bit freaked out when he walked right on in to her house").
Look at the residents. Smell the unit. Does it smell at least semi-fresh? Do the residents appear well-cared-for? Of course, it's still going to have a "nursing home" smell, but that doesn't mean the smell of incontinent people running around unchecked. Residents with food on their shirt isn't a huge deal, but residents with clothes that smell dirty is a bigger issue. Do the residents seem to have the same level of needed care that your family member will be provided (ie, do the residents appear to need more/less care than your family member, so that it isn't taking 4 aids to deal with Mr. Jones, leaving your family member with nursing care less time than needed)?
Ask to see the shower facilities. Are they on the unit? How "scary" do they look? (I had one resident who called it "the gas chamber;" it was a 13x13 foot tiled room with one shower head and a hand-held shower.) Is there a walk-in tub available on the unit?
How are physical therapy needs taken care of? Are they dealt with on the unit, or does the resident have to go somewhere else? (Ideally, it would be on the unit, so the patient stays where they are familiar, versus being led through locked doors to a place they don't normally go.
What does the unit sound like? What do the nurses and aids sound like? Quiet, soothing voices? Expect some occasional yelling from residents; that is normal. But, how do other residents and staff deal with it?
How are meal times done? Is there "family seating" at tables, instead of just being delivered to their room to eat?
How are doctor's appts dealt with? Will facility provide transportation and an aid for the visit? (Ideally, yes, an aid will go with the resident, as they are familiar with the resident's daily schedule and functioning.)
Good luck!
ETA to correct accidental emoji in the text.