DH and I are struggling with this little conundrum....

DD is an incredibly flexible 12yo (like, she can put her ankles behind her neck and walk on her hands)... She's also completely hopeless in body awareness--she has dyspraxia (poor motor planning). Her dyspraxia can be "helped," but it's likely always going to be a bit of a hurdle for her. It frequently frustrates her that she can't figure out how to move her body like other kids do. It took her a long time to walk, to run, to jump, to do alternate-climbing stairs, and she still has a heck of time with anything that crosses the midline (like doing a "windmill" or a cartwheel). She has a Xbox game that gives points for dancing, and for her to "get" how to do the dance, I have to stand behind her and move her body the right way; once she "feels" it a few times, she can usually get a close approximation, but never completely "right." She has lost all the "fun" of the game because she doesn't get it to say "perfect" or "almost perfect" very often.

One of her (well-meaning, but oblivious) friends told her she should do dance next year, as that would make great use of her flexibility. DD has glommed onto this idea, and it is 100% what she wants to do next year, at the expense of any other sport/activity. Our dance program at the school is competition-based.

She's done track and cross country this year, and liked both. She's not good at either of them, but she had a lot of fun. We encouraged these because she's going against her self versus another team. We have a fairly competitive sports program; the track and XC are the least competitive (or the easiest to ignore the competitiveness).

So, the conundrum is pretty simple... Do we support her in the dance program, knowing that she's going to be really frustrated very quickly, and her dyspraxia will affect the whole team, or do we say "no" to dance, but continue to support other "personal" sports, like track and XC where success is as simple as beating your last PR?