Is your DS seeing a behavioral therapist? I have an almost 13yo boy with very mild ADD and I have an 8yo with extreme ADHD. It was recommended to us that in order to really help the 8yo he should get medication as well as behavior therapy. A therapist should be able to tell you what he should be capable of. Also, what does his teacher say? Does he turn in homework on time? Does he obey verbal and written commands? What works for him to succeed at school?
I will ill tell you when my DS3's meds wear off he has a very hard time staying on task. I'm am constantly redirecting him. My other 2 boys will set the table, empty the clean dishes from the dishwasher and out them away, take my groceries out of bags and generally out them in the right place in the pantry although I may have to ask them a few times because they don't want to do it. All of their rooms are messy and it takes at least the threat of reduced iPad time to get them to pick them up. But then they do it reasonably well on their own and come tell me when it's done. With my DS with ADHD I have to stand in his room and tell him what to do. When his medication is working, however, he will get it done without redirection. My oldest one is a little forgetful and slightly lazy about getting stuff done (which might be the add at work) but he gets things accomplished with visual lists posted around the house as well as mental memory tricks that seem to work for him.
I work very very closely with DS3's teacher. She know how she expects her students to behave and although DS3 has ADHD, she knows he's on medication and is trying to bring his behavior up to the same level as his peers. She emails me to tell me how he did that day, how distracted he was, and we work on ways via email to help him succeed. Iiwy, I'd start with your teacher. Hth!
Last edited by gatorsmom; 04-29-2016 at 07:32 PM.
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