One of DD1's (almost 13) friends was trying out for a club sports team. I told DD she should try out too, at least to go through a try out process with cuts, so she sees how it goes. She went reluctantly. She made the team, friend did not.
She had 48hrs to decide if she wanted to join the team or decline. We talked, she was nervous, but she LOVES this sport. I told her if she wants to be a better player, improve her skills, challenge herself, etc., join the team. If not, just pass. She decided to join. Club runs Sept- July. I paid, she's been to one practice, signed up/paid for 3 tournaments this fall, purchase team-specific gear.
Last night she is sobbing about how she doesn't want to do club-sport, everyone is better than her, she has no friends on the team and only signed up b/c I made her. (I absolutely did make her go to the tryouts, I did NOT tell her she had to join the team. DH said she joined "to please us" and I definitely was persuading her to join, she didn't want to let me down and he basically didn't discuss it with her. I disagree with this, I think I just went over pros and cons. But whatever. ) I've been over, "You'll keep getting better, they thought you were good enough to be on team, you'll make friends, you said you wanted to do this, you made a commitment..." etc. etc..
Now. This is a HUGE commitment for us, both financial and time-wise. Tournaments are far away and expensive, and in the spring will require overnight hotel stays, etc..
She truly loves this sport. I think she has the potential to be really good. She made a commitment and I paid a ton of money already, which will be lost. But I don't want her to be miserable, not play well bc she doesn't want to be there and make the next 10 months like pulling teeth. Dh says we should wait for a couple more practices and the first tournament (this would be about a month total), and if she hates it she can drop out. I realize how bad it is she took a spot which someone else who really wanted it could have had. I am really not sure how I feel about this.
Any club sport parent out there? WDYT/WWYD?