Originally Posted by
icunurse
Ok, so if I'm reading this correctly, 12 out of 16 girls met up in matching outfits to trick or treat and one girl is feeling hurt and left out? If so, overall it's a jerk move by the girls who coordinated it, very Mean Girl. Seriously, 12 is ok but 13, 14, 15, or even 16 is just too much to walk the streets for candy? Sure. If you said 4 or 5, I'd believe it. But that big of a group and that much planning is a lot of going behind the back.
So, if my DD was #1 - we'd probably be having our first big talk about how friendships change, people change, sometimes people suck, and they way she feels right now she should never make another person feel. I'd be encouraging her to try new things and feel out new friends because clearly she isn't in the top 12.
If my Dd was #2 - I'd be asking her what the heck she was thinking by excluding a part of her core group like that? And we would be talking about how you treat people and even if you don't want to be someone's BFF or hang with them, common decency still rules and sometimes that means being honest and taking the consequences. That is growing up. Really, would one more person, even if you're not crazy about them, have ruined a walking group of 12? I don't think so. It's more than just group size going on here IMO.