Does he want to take the math class? If so, I would fight the school on that one. It isn't their place to make that kind of judgment unless he's disruptive in class. He likely won't get more motivated (I didn't), but he should be able to take a class for which he qualifies if he wants to. (I wasn't motivated, but I loved learning and taking accelerated courses--even when I wasn't getting the best grades. Taking a lower level would have been mind-numbing, and I wouldn't have been any more likely to do the work--probably less so. And I wouldn't have accessed the higher-level coursework. Better to have that access and not be at the top than to be bored AND not at the top.)
I used to think students who hadn't shown the work ethic should be barred from honors (or similar) classes, but I've realized I was wrong. (Speaking as a teacher, parent, and former lazy student.)
I don't know what to say about the health issues except to point out that 100 years ago (or so?), there was nothing to help your son. Now there are so many options. Hopefully soon there will be even better options and he won't have to face a life of constant monitoring. Hopefully soon there will be a cure.
Sorry, I guess this is the BP--feel free to ignore.
ETA: In case you didn't ignore, I wanted to add that you can't really separate the ADHD from the lack of drive. The mental energy required to function in the world as a disorganized person didn't leave much to put into being "driven." But people with ADHD tend to be smart, creative, and collaborative (as you probably already know), and they can learn to build on those skills to find other paths in the world. It's not necessarily lack of drive, just an inability to figure out Step 1. Which manifests as not caring because the work never gets done because the ADHD person truly does not know how to get started. Or how to get finished. Sorry, I'll get off my soapbox now.
Last edited by sariana; 08-22-2017 at 04:14 AM.
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