Do you have this issue with your tween/teens and their friends? (Kind of long)

[AnnieW625]

Dd1 and two friends (S, and A) had planned to go to Universal Studios Hollywood today (11/10) and then realized it was a pass blackout date due to the holiday. So they decided instead they were going to go to Downtown Disney and friend S’s grandma was going to take them, but then this AM S’s Grandma’s plans changed and she couldn’t take them so I offered to take them, but then S’s mom texted me and said that she thought the girls would rather just hang out at S’s house; I told S’s Mom I would still take them if they still wanted to go. Dd1 also asked S and A if they wanted to go (A never got back to Dd1), but S was adamant that now they were all going to just hang out at S’s house and ride bikes, play Christmas music on their flutes, and just talk. Dd1 told S that she didn’t want to play her flute, and wanted to know why S had changed her mind. S then accused Dd1 of making her (S) cry because Dd1 didn’t want to come over, and S never told DD1 why she had changed her mind. I found it very odd that S was all about going to Downtown Disney when her Grandma was going but then all of a sudden had a change of heart when she couldn’t go. S didn’t also like the idea of me going with them because it was suppose to be a 6th grade only day and only her Grandma was suppose to the adult there. Dd1 even told S I would leave them alone (which I would outside of lunch).

Dd1 is frustrated with S because she never wants to come to our house or do anything that we suggest; this started about a year ago. Dd1 says that S wants everything her way, and isn’t open to suggestions about what to do or watch or what to eat anytime they hang out and it is really frustrating to Dd1 . I honestly can’t remember the last time S was at our house or the girls did something Dd1 or Friend A suggested.

Help me through this because it is really hard on Dd1 because she has been friends with S and A since kindergarten and I have a feeling her friendship with S maybe on the fritz and I don’t want A’s relationship with S suffering because of the relationship with Dd1 and S. A has acknowledged that S can be rude though (and texted this to Dd1 as well).


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