Not a bitch, as need advice to how to change my approach. Much of house maintenance coordination falls to me. I’m the list maker (my personality) and I grew up with parents that did all house repairs themselves with us kids helping as we got older. DH wants to just
rest on weekends. His job is busy, but I’m also out of house equal number of hours working some weeks (I do extra hours on top of regular 40 hour week) and I also bring work home. DH can’t bring work home and does have some long days.
DH hates when I list what needs to get done, and he doesn’t seem to notice things that need repair. He’ll help on a weekend, but it’s often reluctantly. I’m the driver with “let’s do this job this weekend.” It’s annoying as I’d like to sit and watch TV too, but the garage won’t clean itself, the gate won’t paint itself etc. I’m fine to potter around house on weekends whereas he wants to watch tv or go do something.
He’s fully engaged when it’s a project he wants e.g planning to redo backyard and install hot tub, he’s doing all the coordination with landscape designer and contractor. It’s the regular boring stuff he really doesn’t want to do. We do hire out for help when it’s big jobs, it’s the smaller things that we can do ourselves that I’m talking about. I try to get as much done on my breaks from school, but we still need to do things during school year.
Any advice?
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