When one family member’s engine runs at a different speed...
Dh work from home, when the kids are on school break (otherwise he goes to an office). He sets his own schedule as he’s an entrepreneur. He is NOT the kind of person who can sit around and relax. He has ADHD and thrives on lots of activity and drama. It has been an unusually busy fall for our family. All the kids are in a lot of activities and I have taken on leading a group at church. I really think Dh has enjoyed the level of energy around here the last few months. Until this Christmas break. We haven’t planned any travel and many of their activities are on pause until school starts which has meant a nice, slow pace for all the rest of the family. We have cleaned out some closets, done some activities at home, and watched a lot of movies. But there has been this underlying current of tension and frustration with Dh. He’s snippy and short tempered. He makes it clear by turning the vacuum on at 9:30am outside our bedrooms that he doesn’t like us all sleeping in. He’s up making breakfast before anyone is awake. He’s constantly pushing us to do stuff that he thinks needs to be done (it doesn’t it). Its kinda ruining the boring relaxing vibe the rest of us are all enjoying for the first time in months. The only other activities the kids and I are doing are ones that we are desperately behind on like cleaning out closets and organizing and purging the house. The rainy and slushy weather here is perfect for that too. Apparently that is not how DH wants to spend his energy. I can see he’s trying to control his impatient attitude but would it be rude for me to tell him to go to work or get out or the house for a day? Or three?
" I object to violence because when it appears to do good, the good is only temporary; the evil it does is permanent." Mahatma Gandhi
"This is the ultimate weakness of violence: It multiplies evil and violence in the universe. It doesn't solve any problems." Martin Luther King, Jr.