Any advice for severe shy bladder?
Last April, my middle schoolers went on a 4-day bus trip with their school. They slept the first and last night in the coach bus. Since the onboard potty can’t be emptied until after the trip, the chaperones and kids all encourage each other not to use the potty if possible (to control the smell). To make sure everyone is comfortable, the driver stops every 3-4 hours or as needed for potty/snack breaks at clean rest stops along the way. The kids had a great trip and didn’t mind th overnights on the bus except for one problem. DS1, who apparently has always struggled a little bit with shy bladder, now has a real problem. There is another bus trip coming up and all his high school friends are going- the entire high school. At our school, the high school is tiny so all the kids in it hang out together and are friends. DS1 was really looking forward to this trip (he’s a freshman this year) but he confided in me this weekend that he’s really nervous about the bathroom break situation. He doesn’t feel he can use the bus bathroom and he feels too much pressure to get back on the bus at the rest stops. He just can’t go.
This came as a surprise to me because we take extended trips as a family and I’ve never heard about this. He said he feels some pressure when we are traveling but our family habits are more predictable and flexible so he knows he will have a chance to go. On the school trip, not only is he concerned about being pressured to pee while on rest stops but he will have to share a hotel room with other boys and there is the pressure of using up the bathroom too long or knowing someone is waiting for it. So, apparently he came to the conclusion this weekend to cancel the trip. He copied me on an email he sent to the trip director canceling. The trip leaves this Wednesday. I reassured him that he still has 3 more years to do this trip so that cheered him up some. He’s pretty disappointed.
But we need to fix this problem. I am starting to remember that I had a similar problem as a kid that I struggled with for a long time. I overcame it as a young adult with time and I found a trick that could get me to pee. If I thought of something really funny, I could usually start the flow. But he said that hasn’t worked for him.
Any advice, tricks, experience or suggestions? I’ll also ask the therapist (he was seeing for anxiety due to his dyslexia). We as a family are taking 2 bus pilgrimages this year and even though we won’t be sleeping on the bus, there will be a tight schedule we will have to stick to. I’d like to get him on the road to recovery before we leave for that first trip (in April). TIA!
Last edited by gatorsmom; 01-14-2019 at 10:20 AM.
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