Originally Posted by
hbridge
She needs to write down EXACTLY what happened as close to the time of the incident as possible. Have her date the document. She also needs to talk to a professional (counselor, therapist, pediatrician... preferably someone NOT affiliated with the team and someone who will believe her, take her seriously, and help document).
I would be livid with how the coach handled the situation. I think they are trying to put the situation to rest too quickly. The boy saying "...it was just a game" is akin to a girl getting raped at a party and having the boy say "...but it was just a party"! At the VERY least, he needs to understand what he did wrong and why it's wrong! Even if there is no disiplinary action, he needs to understand why he was in the wrong!
If it were my child, I would have her talk to an outside medical professional. Also, forward all documentation (e-mail's) to the principal and/or athletic director.
My concern at this point is also where the boy may take this... Unfortunately, these things can turn quickly.
Your daughter is incredibly brave to come forward and to want to talk to the coach! She needs to be heard, not have her voiced squelched.