MIL's health has been getting frailer and took a turn for the worse on the weekend - she's 90. She is in the hospital now, and when we talked to the doctor today and the cardiologist, neither had good news. She has lost her ability to swallow, and it is either a feeding tube/heart surgery/figure out swallowing issue/rehab or Hospice. She was pretty lucid this morning and was leaning toward the latter - she has gotten a lot weaker and is in reality probably not up for all of the fixes needed and rehab. I lean toward Hospice as well, but since she is able to make a choice, we'll support what she wants. We told the girls tonight, and are still processing the news ourselves.

Those of you who have been here - lay it on me, please. Any advice in any area is welcome - bucket lists, insurance headaches, putting things in order, helping kids cope - anything that might be useful. We'd ideally like to have her get Hospice in her unit at the retirement home. We are feeling overwhelmed and unsure of what the next few weeks/months will bring. Hearing from those who have been there would be most appreciated. Books that are useful in our situation would also be good to know about. Thank you.