There have been an increased number of arrests in the last few years for people watching/downloading child porn. In my area, I know of more than a few, including community leaders and medical professionals. An old boss of two coworkers was arrested and lost everything- his job, license; his life it seems. He was not a nice boss, and not a medical professional that had any access to children. Anyway, this also happened to someone close to my family.
The husband was found to have videos of young teen girls on his computer. The children in the family were interviewed by professionals and found to have not been affected in any way (by which I mean, they were never shown anything, not touched, or did not have any knowledge of sex outside of age appropriateness) They were allowed to remain in the home. The husband lost his job and many friends, including the one he considered his best friend. He has been in weekly counseling and have determined the mental state that led him to look at these images. He has now served his sentence and has no legal restrictions on his activities. He was charged in such a way that he is not on the offender list, and never had a problem with school drop offs/pick ups. He did choose to limit school activities to evening activities with mostly adults, and parent/teacher conferences and very few of those as he felt judged.
His wife has stood by him, and is the breadwinner for the family. Her coworkers do not know any of this, so work is a bit of a refuge.
Anyway, I am trying to find a comparison in the severity and complexity of the crime. He never did anything in person. The only ones physically hurt by this crime were the children in the videos. Psychologically and socially, many others in his family were hurt by his actions. The father had been an active adult scouter, and has been banned "forever" from the scouts. He now wants to be a "parent" of a scout to his son, and go to award ceremonies, or be able to drive the son (3hrs) to summer camp. The local district has refused that.
Can anyone help me to figure out a comparison? I can't verbalize what I am looking for. An example like a person drove home drunk and ran his car into his own garage. The potential for harm was there, but it did not happen to anyone outside the family. Not a good example, really.
Thanks for reading.