OP, these are my thoughts. I have some experience with this. DH has a cousin and I have a second cousin that both had similar stories. They were caught and convicted and served time in jail and now they are free. DHs cousins family deals with it by having the offender live with his step grandma and never having any contact with children. I think he had a job. His siblings are supportive to him emotionally but provide no excuses for what he did and he has no contact with their children. They try to emphasize that there are areas where he can contribute to society but he can never be near kids again. He was a single guy with no kids so he’s able to easily keep separated.
My cousin is more complicated. He was married with two daughters. His mom (my moms cousin) still thinks it wasn’t really him or makes other excuses for him. My cousin was one of the most charismatic people I’ve ever met and lived his life as the “nice guy” the stigma had been hard for him but I think he would do well to recognize that it was earned. He’s divorced and lost custody. Our understanding was that he never molestef his own kids but his wife has done well to advocate for keeping him away from them regardless.
I think your friend needs to own his separation from Scouts and his stigma from neighbors. If he’s really contrite he’s recognize that separation from other kids is a necessity. It’s too hard to determine if he’ll be a risk to a child. What he did was wrong and he’s still paying the price.
I don’t know how severe his crime is. I do think that porn can be addictive and clicking the wrong thing happens! I also think the people arrested have an excessive amount and I do think there are victims and the outrage is warranted. I don’t think we understand it well or how it develops in these “nice guys” but I feel like that’s the question of the ages for nearly everyone behind bars. How much of that is circumstance? Mental illness? Personal choice? Being born inherently bad? I don’t know. I personally thinks it’s ok to be wary of convicted criminals and that doesn’t translate to unkindness.