Assault at school
This is a difficult post to write, and I worry I may be betraying my daughter by even writing it. However, I need the BBB wisdom and any practical advice you may have.
Some of you remember there was an incident with my daughter at swim earlier this school year. This has nothing to do with that.
My daughter was sexually assaulted by a boy at school. It was a boy she trusted, and he told her they would walk to meet some friends during lunch (on the school grounds, but passing some more isolated areas).
Dd disclosed to the school counselor several days later, who immediately had to notify school admin. The police were involved quickly. Dd told admin she wanted to be the one to tell me and she told me that night. Dd has agreed to be questioned by our local agency that questions kids in these situations (they do the questioning and a police officer is present).
Dd has a lot of support at school, and is hanging in there. One of the biggest issues is that I hate that this happened, but am equally fearful that more could happen. They have determined that this boy has done this to other girls. There are indicators that the boy was very calculated in what he did. He does not know there is an investigation happening yet, but he soon will. I just don't know how my dd can be safe within that process. I voiced this to the school counselor, who has worked on a more emotional safety plan with dd and has given dd the info about where the boy will be schedule-wise so she will not see him, but they do not want the boy to know there is an investigation happening until they need to. The counselor says they want dd to feel safe, dd should not have to be the one to change things once things are out in the open, etc However, I dont know that is realistic. I question if she can continue at that school, even though the ideal says she should not have to change. As for dd's feelings about this, she has a general feeling of fear, but I dont think she is at the point of knowing what she is scared about yet. She has said she is afraid of what will happen when he finds out that she told, but her mind is not focusing on that as much as other things/
I also really dont know what the process is and how to even give my daughter the info she needs to make informed choices. The questioning happens on Tuesday, but I dont know what will happen after that. The school is clear that they believe my daughter and we actually are familiar with/like the officer involved...but as I try to explain to my daughter, they have other agendas that go beyond her best interests...I called our local sexual assualt crisis line yesterday, and they recommended I contact our local crime victims office, which I will do..but just want to see if anyone else has any other advice.
We are taking care of the emotional support she needs. Thanks for any help.
lucky single mom to 20 yr old dd and 17 yr old ds through 2 very different adoption routes