When your kid's school sends home permission forms to show them movies, how carefully do you vet what they'll be seeing? Until literally today, I had been pretty chill about this; assuming that my kids' teachers are professionals who could be trusted to judge what's appropriate for their students. I'm now thinking that wasn't particularly responsible of me.
Our most recent permission form is for a film on 9/11 that DD (13) is supposed to watch in 7th grade social studies. (this one:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1gpJyFHETw) I know I'm still very sensitive about that day and I was curious about how it was going to be presented as history, so I decided to watch the video; still thinking I would allow DD to watch the film.
The film they're watching is the middle section of a three-part series shown on National Geographic in 2005. The first part (which they will not see) provides history and context for the attacks; the third part (again, that they will not see) apparently discusses Bin Laden and was updated to include his death. The middle, which they will watch, is a moment-by-moment account of the morning of 9/11, and it both shows and describes everything. They show video of both of the planes crashing into the Twin Towers, as well as the plane hitting the Pentagon (the latter accompanied by multiple computer simulations of how the plane disintegrated as it tore through the building). They show footage of people falling from the towers, accompanied by people describing what it sounded like when the bodies hit the ground. The show video of a man trying to climb down the tower, and freeze-frame it at the moment he falls. They have survivors describing, in graphic detail, people with their faces burned off and eyes burned from their skulls, asking for help. They play at least a dozen voicemails between doomed people trapped in the towers or other locations and their loved ones. They show each tower's collapse, with extended footage of people running, screaming, from the cloud of debris. They play footage of ground zero the next day, and explain that the chirping sounds drowning out all other noise in the footage are the locator beacons pinned to the equipment of hundreds of dead firefighters.
The movie is clearly meant for adults, and it is meant to sensationalize what I honestly thought was unsensationalizable. The timeline approach adds drama and horror, and by the middle of it I was shaking and crying. The permission ship mentions that the movie is being shown to give the kids an understanding of the day, But I really can't see any pedagogical value in showing them such graphic footage (especially when it's stripped of any kind of context and accompanied by some highly objectionable political content and a hefty dose of Islamophobia, but that's a whole different post).
Obviously, DD won't be getting my permission to watch this movie, but I find myself a little stunned that the school is showing it at all. I've always kind of thought that when a permission form is sent out, the assumption is that the media in question is broadly considered appropriate for the age group, but that the school is asking permission just in case there are some outlier kids who have extra-cautious parents. Have I been too sanguine all this time? Should I have been watching every movie about which a form was sent home? Is that the normal practice/expectation? How do you handle these situations?
(for the record, there's also every chance I am an outlier/extra cautious parent. In most instances, I think it's inappropriate and disrespectful to the dead to to show footage of them dying. I would have been dismayed, but accepting of them showing the planes crashing, but imo it is very wrong to show the people falling/jumping from the buildings, and absolutely grotesque for them to freeze-frame on the moment that a desperate man loses his fight to live).