ms.pacman
;4335432]thanks all! i have talked a bit to other parents on this since school got out (school has been over for more than a week now). it does seem like she needs an IEP. one possibility i heard was having pediatrician write a note recommending her for services (that is what one mom recommended) - but our ped isn't aware of her going to seeing therapist for SM. not sure if it has to be a ped or a therapist could write this.
that is a good point about how my DS should not be used in that regard. it never bothered me honestly but now thinking about it, i should totally use that to leverage another reason dd needs the fade-in with the new teacher.
on a positive note, our principal did get a chance to talk to district specialist on SM about what this intervention could look like..should know in some weeks what the outcome of that discussion was. sadly, this one specialist (who is the one person in the district who has expertiste in SM) is retiring, which really sucks. it is hard bc very very very few people understand SM, even after explaining it to people in simple terms. It is probably the least understood disability, even though it's so friggin basic. I will literally tell people "she has an anxiety disorder where she cannot talk in certain situations" and people get down and TRY THEIR HARDEST to get her to speak. Like they want to be the magic unicorn whisperer that gets her to talk. It is so INFURIATING. Seriously, WHAT IS IT with adults wanting to demand a child talks to them?? It is not "rude" if a child doesn't speak to you. OMG....this needs to be drilled into adults' heads.....
today dh went to summer school open house (summer school starts tmw) and there was only 1 hour of "open house" to talk to the teachers there about DD"s SM. DH was good and printed out a handout to give to teachers showing what they can do (not for doing fade-in, but just not to punish her for not speaking). bc dh had to be there and ds had swim team practice at same time had to leave work super early to pick up my DS. Dude, i have no idea how folks with multiple kids and/or multiple therapy appts do it!!