Many people reach out to DH because he works at a very desirable company. DH usually tries to help and probably does at least 2 lunches a month looking at portfolios, helping people tour and sometimes introducing people. He’s always honest about their prospects and usually offers constructive criticism and advice.
Recently an old high school friend reached out to him. While DH does not feel that he has any potential in his group, he does have a skill set that could help the company. DH offered to do lunch with him.
So here’s the wrinkle—after setting up the lunch, the friend says “oh, and also my wife would like to come. Is that a problem?” It actually is a problem. The wife worked with DH as an intern and while she wasn’t terminated, she separated in bad circumstances—basically completely flipping out when not offered a job, crying to top executives etc. DH actually was asked to talk to her to calm her down, which he did. He critiques her portfolio and she just went off on him. She left the company and DH blocked her on FB. That was 9 years ago.
DH for his part, forgot that his friend and this woman, the old intern were married. Her presence at the lunch could be awkward for DHs coworkers (he works in a different group now but they share a cafeteria). And could be awkward too for DH! The friend sees all the stuff, the former intern must know she’s blocked!
So what does DH do at this point? Tell his friend his wife can’t come?
WWYD? I think if the former intern was a bit less reactive DH could probably be more honest, but her reaction was so out of place that DH is cautious to engage with her. Would love your thoughts!