We have a trip planned soon to see my parents. I did not share dates with my sister, as last visit we overlapped was very very bad. She and my mum fight, it’s vicious! She just called and she’s arriving 2 days before we get there and leaves about 2 days after us. True to form, she has not told my parents she is visiting, because why would you first check if those dates work for them (insert sarcasm). The last minute notice will not go over well.
DS will be upset as the fighting last time ruined the trip (his birthday was then and they fought over how to make his cake. I’ve explained to him it wasn’t the cake but other issues) and ever since, he has had difficulties being around my sister. I don’t blame him. My mum is equally to blame for the fighting, she’s a difficult person. They’re both difficult people
This time we’re renting a car so we can leave whenever we want. We are going to spend 2-3 days away just the 3 of us. Actually, I wasn’t sure we were going to go away as it’s less time with my dad, but now we definitely are.
Wine
Chocolate
Leave the house
Not my circus, not my monkeys
Don’t engage them when they’re fighting
Don’t let either of them vent to me about the other
What else can I do?
Ugh, I was anxious enough as DH is coming this trip.The easiest visits are when it’s just DS and me, we go along with my parents schedule and just hang out. DH gets antsy if we’re not doing/going somewhere, which I understand as I feel the same at his parents’ house. It’s not a relaxing vacation for either of usvisiting the ILs. Now, my sister’s and mum’s issues are thrown into the mix!!
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