If I were your mom, I would toss the invite and send a simple card of congratulations, wishing them well.
If I were your mom, I would toss the invite and send a simple card of congratulations, wishing them well.
K
Oh I can so relate to your mom. I cannot under any circumstances afford to be as generous as many people on this board are for weddings. But I'm good at putting thought into things and shopping sales which is 100% NOT evident in a cash gift.
I have family and friends that do tacky things all the time. I mostly just love them anyway. But I confess this one really rubs me the wrong way!
ITA with all the pp that it is tacky.
Reminds me of my former roommate over 11 years ago. When she moved out (because I was getting married) and bought her own place, she threw herself a housewarming party. At the bottom of the invitation she printed, "Lowes gift cards accepted." DH and I still laugh about how tacky that was.
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Totally tacky to outright ask for cash and include venmo account info. VERY TACKY.
I'm not shocked or surprised nowadays, as people really have no shame at all.
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Ha! This thread reminds me of the wedding invite that not only asked for cash, but said if they didn't get cash, then they weren't going on a honeymoon. This is an old family friend (a guy I literally grew up with as his parents and my parents were close friends). I was hoping it was his wife's influence, but he was known for being frugal, too. It was so obnoxious and rude and this was more than 15 years ago!
I got married in Northeast 14 years ago, and hated having anything on the invites regarding gifts. It's a big no no to me. Cash is just a given around here, for wedding receptions. Not gifts off registry which is usually given at bridal showers, but i also think it's part of the new norm with couples getting married much later and usually established on their own with property and stuff for the home.
This is why cash is still king because it covers a lot of ground when china set and such isn't really practical. I prefer to give something that I know the couple wants. Like a recent family wedding; DH's cousin son got married but they already had a condo with all the stuff, so they just had a small registry to replace/update their tastes and asked for money towards airfare for their honeymoon. That wasn't dictated on the invite though, but in their wedding website which is the way to go if you're asking for specifics.
But as for your mom, she isn't obligated to give anything.
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