My mom called me the other day and she was kind of upset because she received a wedding celebration invite from my cousin. For some background: my cousin and her boyfriend have been living together for the past 7ish years, have a child together, own a house together etc. They decided to get married at the courthouse last winter, and I don't know who they invited but it wasn't anyone in my family. Now they are sending out invites to attend their marriage celebration. My mom is miffed that this was included in the invite: "The couple has requested instead of gifts to start their married life-cash would save a lot of strife!" and then it lists both of their venmos underneath.
Personally, I agree with my mom-super tacky to basically just ask for money! But is this becoming the new thing, to list venmos and ask for cash?
My mom is also annoyed that they say they are 'starting their married life' when they have lived together for nearly a decade and already own a home and everything you would get a newlywed, which in her mind, is the reason you give wedding gifts-to help furnish a first home. I know that's a slightly old-fashioned way of viewing wedding gifts.