For me, choosing a college was dependent on where I could get the most financial aid. At the time, this meant a public university in-state. I chose one that was far enough away for me to feel independent but close enough that I knew that I could come home on the weekends if I wanted/needed to.
My post-college job was located in NYC (with a planned move to Newark, NJ shortly after I started), but I'd never intended to move to NYC.
I did end up living in the same city where my college is for a couple of years after graduation, but that's partly because it's located on a major rail line, which made getting to work easier when I didn't have a car. (I was also living with my friend who'd gotten a job at one of the local hospitals; our apartment was just about 2 blocks away.)
DH and I bought our house based on the locations of our jobs at the time - neither of us wanted to drive further than an hour.
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Liz
DD (3/2010)
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