How to help twice exceptional kids at school
Ds2 (6) is super bright, but he’s socially and emotionally immature, has sensory issues, and suffers from anxiety. We redshirted him (mid/late August birthday) because of the social/emotional deficits. Everyday he says he hates school. He says he’s bored and he has issues with one particular kid. We were able to get him single grade acceleration for math, which he likes, but he is “so so bored” during the literacy/language arts block (his reading level is about early second grade). The bigger issue is that he fights frequently with a certain kid in his class (who I’m pretty sure is a behavior problem in general...DS1 volunteers in that class twice a week and he reports that particular child has behavior issues). DS2 reports that this kid follows him around at recess and then hits, kicks, or punches him. Sometimes Ds2 reports it to an adult and sometimes he doesn’t. I’ve been emailing the teacher about Ds’s problems with this kid for a week, and I emailed the school counselor yesterday morning. Yesterday afternoon the boys got into a fight at recess where they attacked each other and both got in trouble. It was a rough day for DS because there was a sub in his classroom and he can’t handle chaos. He needs everything to be very structured and he needs all the kids to behave in order for him to be successful in the classroom. And when he’s overwhelmed (sensory), he acts out because he doesn’t know how to handle the situation. He does have those peltor ear muffs, and he wears those on the bus (he was freaking out on the bus before we figured out he needed ear muffs.). His teacher is great and she’s very understanding. I just don’t know how to get DS the help he needs. Clearly he has no educational deficits, and two years ago he did OT (until we discovered out insurance wasn’t covering it), and he went to play therapy last fall (not that helpful.). He’s a super easy and sweet kid when he’s alone with an adult, but a terror when he’s placed in a chaotic situation with lots of kids. He does have friends and can play well with 1-2 kids at a time. FWIW, he did very well in TK last year. It was a catholic school with 15 kids and 2 teachers in the room.
Any ideas about what I can do to help him?
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DD (3/06)
DS1 (7/09)
DS2 (8/13)