WWYD: How to be nice about this?

[jgenie]

I would have your sister just tell the giver that the name is undecided at this time. I would say the name is undecided and not a "surprise" because a surprise name could technically be told to the giver in secret to help them complete this personalized gift purchase. "Undecided" makes it easier since the giver can't possibly personalize the gift if you don't know what the name will be.

And like PPs said, just accept the gift graciously and say "thank you." What your sister does after that is entirely up to her--donate, toss, etc.

This is what we did. People didn’t bother us to reveal the name since we hadn’t decided.


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[Melaine]

Undecided is a great idea. Thanks guys. Also i think the idea of picking a common name like Emma (to donate) is hilarious and ingenious TwoWhat!

[mommy111]

‘They’re waiting to see the baby before deciding on a name. I don’t want your nice personalized gift to be the wrong name, perhaps give her something generic?’
just kidding
id use the first part of that and then thank them profusely for their efforts

[mom2binsd]

I mean what if they were telling people they had chosen "Emma", then when she was born and they changed their mind????

Is this something expensive that the giver is making? It seems so sad to know it's probably going to be donated, but I guess if this person is determined to give it oh well.

Just tell them we are undecided on a name at this time (that would have been the truth for both of my kids, didn't know gender or what name until they were born).

[Globetrotter]

I think she has to accept it graciously, take pictures of the baby with it, send a polite thank you note with the photo, then donate it. I received a number of homemade blankets and outfits, and I know a lot of love went into making them so I cherished that sentiment, even if I barely used some of them and donated them later.

Great idea to say they don’t know the name.
I am SO curious to know what it is 😂

[gatorsmom]

Undecided is a great idea. Thanks guys. Also i think the idea of picking a common name like Emma (to donate) is hilarious and ingenious TwoWhat!

I love this idea too. As another pp said, what if they changed their mind once they saw the baby?

Anyway, she just has to thank the gift giver profusely, take a photo of baby in it, then send it to Goodwill. If the giver of the gift feels warm and fuzzy and that your sister loved the gift, then it’s served its purpose. Even if it’s personalized, someone else could use it for another reason (like dressing their dog in it). You never can tell.

[khm]

I don't know I'd take it to goodwill. If it is LARGE and decorative, it sounds like it might be too identifiable to go to goodwill if this is her "thing" (OP said she's made it for others).

I guess I'm picturing it being a large wooden pallet sign or something.

[gatorsmom]

I don't know I'd take it to goodwill. If it is LARGE and decorative, it sounds like it might be too identifiable to go to goodwill if this is her "thing" (OP said she's made it for others).

I guess I'm picturing it being a large wooden pallet sign or something.

ok, now I’m dying to know what this item is. I pictured a crocheted or knitted outfit or something. Melaine, any hints??

[JustMe]

Sorry I am late to this thread, but agree with telling the person that they are not sharing the name (I think it is also fine to say undecided, but it is their right not to share the name as well and I think it is fine to be honest about that), but that saying no to the gift or indicating she would not want it, is not the way to go. I am also curious about what the item is!

[NCGrandma]

Am I the only one who is envisioning a large, garish item with the word "Undecided" where the name would otherwise go? (In a decorative font, of course)



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