Originally Posted by
acmom
Our situation was a little different bc our older dog had what we think was a stroke one night after the kids went to bed. The vet was wonderful and had us bring her in that night and we put her to sleep right then (as they found a huge bleeding mass in her chest when they did the x-ray). We told the kids the next day and just said she was really sick and didn't make it. Kids were around 9, 7 and 1 at the time.
They were really sad when we told them the next day (luckily it was a weekend), but overall we dealt with the grief as a family. The vet did a paw print in clay that is really nice and we had her cremated. They put her ashes in a nice wooden box. We also ordered a canvas of our favorite picture of her and gave each kid a 4x6 print of it. Each child also chose a black lab stuffed animal to snuggle and remember her.
We had had a close call with the same dog about a year earlier when she had a major back issue. That time we took pictures and had them give her hugs (and pretty much say goodbye) as we didn't know if they would be able to help her get better and come home and we told them that. Luckily the meds helped a lot that time and she had another year with us with good quality of life.
I think my kids would have really struggled with being there but I think that is probably a personal call for each family and child.