Originally Posted by
smiles33
I'm ethnically Chinese, speak Mandarin (it was actually my first language since my parents never spoke English at home until I was placed into an ESL class), and my priority for my kids is Spanish first. They may never learn Chinese, or they may decide to take some classes in college. DH is a 5th generation Chinese American and doesn't speak any Chinese. His grandparents on both sides didn't teach any of their kids Chinese because of the backlash in the 40s and 50s against anyone speaking anything other than English (plus Japanese Americans had all been dragged to camps so the Chinese Americans were under pressure to prove they were loyal Americans and even wore buttons saying I am Chinese so they wouldn't be violently attacked because someone wrongly assumed they were Japanese American!).
Anyhow, the point is that we made a pragmatic decision. Yes, I agree, Mandarin is difficult for native English speakers to learn because it's a tonal language (meaning the way you say "ma" could mean mother, horse, angry, or numb depending on whether it's a rising tone, falling tone, neutral tone, etc.). But we don't plan to ever move to China and we live in a state which is significantly Latinx. DH regularly uses Spanish with patients and parents. I don't use it as often, since I'm in a university environment, but my high school Spanish has come in handy far more often than my Chinese. The one time I remember using Chinese to help strangers is when an elderly couple asked for directions!
I also want to add that I remember there was a HUGE focus on learning Japanese in the 90s when they were a superpower. Tons of students took Japanese but then Japan lost its economic power and the language fell out of favor. I'm not saying China is going to suddenly lose its economic power, but I just don't know that I'd focus on potential long-term value if the language isn't commonly used where you live. If you think your child might move to China, then yes, learning Chinese makes sense. I have a bunch of former students (all of European descent, not Chinese descent) who majored in Chinese, are fluent in the language, and moved to China for several years before starting law school. But after three years here, not speaking Chinese daily, I'm sure they lost some of their fluency. It's a difficult language.