I’m really upset and want input on if I’m over reacting. We live about 400 miles away from my parents and brother. They live about 15 miles from each other and rely on my parents to watch their 2 kids 3 days a week. With the shelter in place order in our state, my parents have not been to my brother’s place to help. Brother and SIL have been WFH (SIL works part time) while managing their 5 & 8 year olds. My Dad was hospitalized with pneumonia for a week last year and continues to have a low white blood cell count. Brother & SIL, I believe, have been good about social distancing these past 2 weeks and I know my parents have.
I’m mad because this weekend my brother + family all went to spend the day at my parents house. I only found out accidentally because I happened to call at that time. My Dad was defensive when I expressed surprise and my very educated, research obsessed brother also obviously thought it was no big deal. I’m not sure if they’ve decided that they’ll go back to their old schedule where my parents come to their place 3 days a week to watch the boys. I’m too annoyed to ask.
Is it reasonable for me to be upset about this? Should I say anything? I know they’ll be defensive and it won’t go well. My guess is they’ll say they’ve isolated from each other for two weeks, no one got sick so what’s the big deal? Are they right? I’m a rule follower so this is particularly hard for me to accept during a pandemic. Plus, I also think that my brother & SIL who have never had to watch their kids 24/7 without help are struggling and just want help. That makes me MORE mad. Would you say anything? What?