Originally Posted by
almostmom
I know this is bugging you, but I don't think she's laying it on thick. I would take that at face value that she was distraught. Just like your husband felt bad all night, so did she. Neither is in a winning position - she doesn't feel safe going to work (totally understandable), but doesn't want to lose her job (good employer, and money!). Your husband doesn't want to fire her, but needs a cleaner. I think he found a great solution, which is to save her job for when she is ready to return.
This whole thing is difficult for everyone, on so many levels. I would give her the benefit of the doubt and don't blame her for text messages that aren't even hers. I'm sure it's stressful to think of not having an income moving forward. And hopefully when your husband first started paying her even though she wasn't working, she said thank you.
Hang in there, breathe, and let this go. And hope your husband can find another cleaner--