At a minimum, I’d have everyone sit outside. You could frame it as a backyard barbecue- have frisbees and yard toys out for the kids and set up the lawn chairs ahead of time. Transmission on of the virus is VERY low outside. Hand sanitizer bottles sitting out for before you eat. You and your parents aren’t likely to catch it this way.
I understand how you feel with regards to your brother. My mother was one of 10 kids. She grew up in squalor- no exaggeration. She was tough, though, and did well for herself. But her siblings made questionable choices all over r place. They always turned to her to listen. And I watched how she handled herself with them. She was kind and listened. She didn’t make any judgments, no criticisms of them or their loved ones. She mainly kept quiet and threw in comments to let them know she was listening and understood and that she loved them regardless of their issues. She was their favorite sister (my aunts and uncles still tell me that). She made them feel loved and accepted. I wish I had done that with my little brother. Instead I bossed him around. We have a difficult relationship now.
You aren’t responsible for how your brother turned out. That was on your parents. They could have pulled you aside as a child and said, “hey, include your little brother too, ok? He needs to feel included.” They could have done more. They were the adults. I’m guessing that now in his life, as before, he just wants to feel loved, respected and supported no matter what he does. Give him that now and you will have done a lot.
Last edited by gatorsmom; 06-03-2020 at 09:45 AM.
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