My mom moved in with us on February 29. The long term plan is for her to move in with my younger brother, but for now she's with us. I don't know how much longer I can do this! I feel like I can't do anything right- she criticizes EVERYTHING, yet expects me to just be at her beck and call. I'm still FT teaching from home, DH is working full time, we have 2 kids and a newish dog we adopted through a rescue, so our hands are full. On top of this, I'm the one getting her house ready to put on the market, her HOA is an enormous PITA to deal with, and she is pissed because it's taking so long. If you don't like how I'm doing it, freaking do it yourself! Half the time we make her food she doesn't even want to eat it, but today she complained because we ate lunch without her- um, you sleep at the weirdest times and have a schedule that does not match with our family AT ALL, you don't like what we make but then you want us to have lunch available to you at 3:30 in the afternoon? WTF? Her primary language is not English, but she is fluent- DH and the kids don't speak her language, yet she is constantly speaking it to them and then expecting them to react accordingly.
We haven't lived together since I left for college. She is making me crazy. I am constantly on edge because if she comes out of her room for something, she's going to criticize me or ask me to explain something on her phone that I have explained numerous times previously. It's so bad that my kids even recognize that she's being critical of me, and DD1 is really starting to get upset on my behalf. I stand up for myself, I try to set boundaries, but there's no escaping the criticisms that she hurls my way- the worst part is I don't even think she realizes that she's doing it! i don't know if I will be able to maintain much of a relationship with her once I finally get her out of my house. It sucks to feel this way about your own mother.