I have four kids. We've been social distancing since March and have kept sane and happy by really having each other and doing some zoom type activities with their peers. Thankfully, the two littles are best playmates right now and the two big kids have always been best friends.
Fast forward to Fall and DS1 has a punishingly difficult semester at school. And DS2....does not. He's DONE for the day by noonish. By contrast DS1 starts early in the morning and usually does homework/schoolwork all day long and even on the weekends.
DS2 is lonely and bored.
I thought maybe I could keep him busy by giving him some challenges. My thought was I could give him some challenge books to read, khan academy to work on, scout merit badges and projects to get going on, etc. I've got some great ideas I want to put together. But what REALLY works with DS2 is rewards and that's where I'm stuck!
I want to propose a big reward in exchange for a very rigorous packet of work to keep him busy and challenged this semester (and potentially next).
The question is--what is the reward? He's already due for an iPhone when he starts 9th grade. Otherwise I know that would be SUPER motivating. If he's getting it anyway (I think high school is a good time) then that's not really fair. Also, not sure I want my kids to be singularly motivated by technology...But on the other hand I can't think of anything else that he wants more...
Another thought. My kids get an 8th grade trip to DC to visit my sister. This will happen when it is safe and things reopen. It might not happen in 8th grade but he knows we're committed to this. I thought maybe we could do some kind of cool "extension" to this trip? Like swing a trip through NYC? (On the cheap). He does idolize my sister. But his interests are either gaming and technology (can you tell that's not my thing really?) or else the natural world and he has wanted to be a vulcanologist for his whole life...
What kinds of incentives can you come up with that sound good?
TIA!