If she has told you to not contact her, and you still initiate contact, so you feel better, she may be including you in the estrangement from others because you’re not respecting her request.
Imagine the roles are reversed, you don’t want contact with someone and they insist on sending you cards and gifts. How would you feel that they disrespected your boundary? Would you want to reach out them when they continue to contact you when you’ve asked them to stop? Or would it solidify that this person doesn’t listen or respect you, so no way would you reach out to them to tell them about a wedding?
She does get to decide who she talks to and who she doesn’t. It hurts, but ignoring her boundaries isn’t going to help.
I’m not trying to attack you. I’ve experienced estrangement from both sides. It hurts. The best is to let her live her life the way she wants. And you accept living yours without having a role in her life because you can’t make her include you.
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