DS1 is in 9th grade. His phone was pretty locked down until this past spring when I took off the strictest blocks and allowed some social media. I have his passwords but probably don't check often enough. I'm sure he is looking at some inappropriate material because I'm realistic, but he's 15 and here we are. He does have a laptop in his room now because of distance learning but we didn't previously allow computer use outside of the downstairs areas. DS2 is in 6th grade and got a phone 2 weeks ago. It's locked down for now with no social media. Hopefully he won't figure out how to work around the apps I use for a few years. I still rely on old fashioned measures that my kids cannot thwart - phones must be in my bedroom before bed each night, I take xBox controllers and tv cords when I feel it's necessary and can perform quick checks on phones at any moment.
Mom to Two Wild and Crazy Boys and One Sweet Baby Girl