I would talk to your ds as much as possible about your concerns, about the risks of premarital sex, what constitutes date rape, how to talk to and be respectful of her feelings and what she might be going through- essentially, I’d talk about ALL OF IT. If there was anything you were holding back on before, talk about it now. And let HIM talk. He will hopefully tell you how he feels, his concerns, and even delve into things she has shared with him.
If there is ANY thought of premarital sex, if he’s even letting his mind go there, then it’s time to talk about condoms to protect himself and her. Remind him that there is a difference between love and lust. Love comes from respecting and caring about someone. Lust is selfish.
Good luck! I just had my final sex talk with my 15yo. I had a list of topics that I referred to from my talk with my eldest son. We talked for hours because he wanted me to elaborate on stuff which i did. I figure, if he’s curious he should hear it from me rather than friends or google.
eta- hooboy, just saw Snugglebuggles’s response. I might have jumped the gun since I just had that talk. Definitely start by asking him to bring her over! In fact, I’d encourage them to come over as often as they want so you can keep an eye on them.
Last edited by gatorsmom; 10-25-2020 at 06:09 PM.
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